BGR problem>>what should i do?

eyewitness SG

hi ple,i have a gf who i have been dating for abt 2 yrs....but 2 mths ago.we have a small quarrel and i called her but she did not ans and she say would call me back when she cool down....i know exams are around the corner.,,,,so i jus leave her alone...she stil sms me in the nite but not often....then on monday,she ask me to have dinner next week for our 2nd yr anniversary...i told her that can we have a chat 1st before having dinner,,,she ask me wat was the chat abt..and i told her it was abt us....she say we will end up quarreling again,...so she ask me to ask he now instead,,,,and i did...i ask her wat was going on between us,,,and why did she have to leave me alone for 2 months???she replied me with a dun know...she wanted to call but afraid that we will quarrel again...and that she regret asking me this question....

after those sms,i am so confused and dun know wat to do,,,,she is even gonna spend her b.day with her friends,,,,,,i am sad and cofused i realli dun know wat to do...ANY Crying or Very sad advice????

weidev SG

relax… cool down… n think positively!!! maybe her friends wan her 2 spend more time with her? maybe she is feeling really stress with her studies… maybe when she study with u she cannot concentrate so she prefer 2 study alone?

eyewitness SG

i learn to trust but sometimes her action realli makes me doubt the trust i am having….for example….her hp bill is send to my houes….and she has abt 2000++ sms but i dare to say that less then a 100 is for me…so i wonder where the rest went to?i know she sms guys,,,,,,do u tink she is betraying me behind my back?”i am so so confused i dun know wat to do how do i choose>>??”

weidev SG

sms alot doesn't mean that she is betraying u... i am sure she has alot of friends... n y do u pay for her bill? this will onli cause her to be dependant on u... i suggest u try n have a heart to heart talk with her... juz go out together one day... then tok.. it;s better than speculating here...

BrUtUs SG

2000+ sms is alot, but mayb she got many frens like to sms mah so no need get so worried yet. as for the quarrel, convince her tat having arguments are normal cos it helps both of u get to understand each other better, try to rang4 bu4 if tat happens... Cool

eyewitness SG

sorry abt that….i dun pay for her totally pay for her bills but there are times when i chip in some for her…..i guess i jus let nature take it’s course as i dun know if we will ever chat again…............thanks for the replies and advices,,,,,,weidev….....

Xiao Long Nu SG

if u love her, trust her......

if she betrays u, forgt abt her

eyewitness SG

and guys...THANKS FOR HEARING ME OUT............ Smile

eyewitness SG

but i dun know if she is betraying me or not….

Xiao Long Nu SG

go hong her abit lor girls mus hong 1 mah.....mayb she stil in bad mood...so lets cool down for soem time....time will heel 1 lar..dn worry... Laughing jus be cool can already.....

Xiao Long Nu SG

orkkk u began to suspect her....means u and her relationship aso nt so deep

eyewitness SG

if there are gals out there reading,i would like to say that guys are not the ones always playing with ur feeling nowadays…but gals are…i have heard of so many cases gals dumping guys for another….because of looks,cars, money….anything…..sometimes spare a thought for the guy who has been trying all he can to provide u with care and comfort,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,cheers!!

eyewitness SG

i admit, i am begining to suspect things but all i can say is that her action does contribute to my thinking as well…..

Xiao Long Nu SG

to guys as well Cool

Xiao Long Nu SG

actualy ur case reminds me of someting sad...anyway feelings aso v impt...if u hav a strong feeling someting bad goin to happen, at least u gt prepare liao...so wont be so sad....worst ting is u v happy then....... Crying or Very sad aiyo dono wat i tokin aso......anyway jus like u say lor....let nature go its course...dn tink so much.......

BrUtUs SG

trust her, she still innocent until proven guilty.. Cool

eyewitness SG

if she is realli guilty,i think i will feel sad more then angry cos all i trusted is down the drain and all my time and effort is wasted.............hiaz,,,,what is LOVE???
"i am so confused,i dun know wat to do,how do i choose?"

Stream SG

I'm afraid that you are going to lose her. From what you stated, she looks like she is not in love with you anymore. Which girlfriend who is in love with her boyfriend would totally ignore his boyfriend and spend her birthday with her friends?

I suggest that you take a step back, do not be anxious. Give the girl some space. She will appreciate it.

I know that you are suspicious about what's she doing behind your back but i recommend you not to tell her about it. It is because it'll make you look insecure and that it might start a quarrel again.

You should be more of a challenge and also try to be creative. Make sure she laughs and not quarrel with you the next time you meet her. Your ought to make her enjoy her time with you. If she try to steer you into serious topics or give you 'tests', you could just avoid them by giving a funny answer. For eg, she say, "Do you love me?". You could reply, "I love you, as a little sister" or "What? You want to hear me to say I love you is it?" Razz

Anyway, just don't think too much. Relax a little. Afterall, it's her lost if she does not want you, right? Wink

Yunhaier SG

The ultimate avoidance is the one who doesn't know how to bring up the issues and discuss it like mature couple. Only young love avoids, escape and vanish without trace. (Has absolutely NOTHING to do with chronological age - it is the degree of enlightenment one has regarding love.) Rolling Eyes

This is simply ridiculous - 2 months of zero contact is as good as the legendary tootpid 'silent' break. FYI, night SMS can't maintain a relationship at all (its simply a minor tool to keep a relationship sweet and contented). My take is that she wants to back out from the relationship, yet she doesn't know how to bring it up to you, therefore she avoids, until one fine day you bth, then break out the news to her, saying that you are leaving this relationship for good. One thing: she doesn't have to face the music of saying it to you and having to bear the name of 'bad person.'

Advice? Rolling Eyes

Date her out and speak to her directly face to face. Useless to sms, write letter, emails, etc. The real message and idea can only be gotten straight from 1st hand information - real life communication. Watch her body language, her tone, her feelings, her way of speaking & her thinking. Everything has a story - you piece them together, you get the whole tale. Rolling Eyes

P.S: Its useless dragging this man. Have a final showdown and speak to her. Even if you were sentence to death, there must be a reason - seek that reason, at least you die clearly and fully aware of what's going on. There must not be mask - everything has to be honest truth. Any 'effort' on trying to hide something suggest that your relationship is descending to destruction and would probably die soon after. 8th law of love - lying destroy intimacy; which is exactly what it is doing to your relationship. Rolling Eyes

Cheers

eyewitness SG

after reading the replies,,,,i came to realise that she might wan to break up with me,,,,but during those last 2 months,,,,she still sms me missing me....i am so confused by her actions.......if she tell me face to face that she wans to break off,,,,,i will let her go.......but i guess she is scare to tell me face to face...i know that i will be very very sad to lose her but i dun have a choice at all.......i think soon u guys will hear from me POSTING...."How to foget someone u love deeply....."haiz....... Crying or Very sad